In this grondbreaking book, marriage and family therapists Claudia Bepko and Jo-Ann Krestan offer women a clear guide to haveing heallthy, sharing relationships without losing themselves. They uncover the reasons so many women work so hard to be good - and wind up feeling so hopelessly inadequate. As an alternative to society's demanding "Code of Goodness" that focuses only on what women do (or fail to do) rather than on who they are, the authors present a new "Code of Balance" that shows women how they can nurtrure others without ignoring their own feelings and needs. Filled with moving case studies, stories from the authors' own lives, and many practical suggestions, Too Good for Her Own Good teaches women how they can end their frustrating attempts to live up to unattainable standards, and learn to make new choices for interacting with all the important people in their lives.